Friday, March 6, 2009

Better Full Than Empty

It seems as if I can't go ANYWHERE without hearing how I have my hands full. It's always said in a negative tone, like I must be crazy. So, my kids might be running around the store and throwing things in my cart. They might even having a bit of a tantrum because I'm not buying doughnuts. For the most part, my kids are really well-behaved. It's the sheer number of them that elicits the comment. I was talking to my friend about this. Why, does it seem, that being a stay at home, with a house full of kiddos is a BAD thing? Why, does it seem, is it better to have no kids, but perfectly manicured nails, clothes without snot wiped on it, and a bag that doesn't have cracker crumbs? Really . . . do clothes make us happier than a snuggle? Can your bags make you laugh because they hear a beat and can't resist dancing? I just don't get it. What truly brings us happiness almost always involves people.
My friend had a reply to the judging people. She says . .

Better full than empty.

Isn't that perfect? It's exactly how I feel.


Have a happy Friday

Laurel

30 comments:

Kelli said...

I'm right there with you, I don't know what I'd do without my babies. Who would hold my face and give me kisses or run and tackle me when I walk in the front door? I'm amazed that people would say that to you in such a way.

Emily said...

Fabulous family picture. I love the response. My church doesn't have a "cry room", so parents are always harried and trying to take screaming toddlers out without disturbing the Mass. I always look because I think babies are so cute, and B told me last week "Don't stare, that's going to be you someday." It never crossed my mind that my looking at the crying baby could be construed as disapproval when really I'm just getting my baby fix! Lol

McCain Family said...

That's a smart friend you have. I really like this post. I would much rather hear my girl laughing at how silly I am over anything else.
Great post.

Carl said...

Love it Laurel! One of them most important things I have learned as of recently is that there are only two things that we will take will us after this life; the knowledge we obtain and the relationships that we form. That is it. Everything else, the big house, the fancy cars, the nice clothes, doesn't matter in the end cause they aren't coming with us. The ONLY things that matter is knowledge and relationships. It has really changed the way that I look at things and has placed a whole new perspective on things. We both think you are a great mom and hope someday that we can be as creative and fun as you are with your kids. Just thought you might want to know.

JILL said...

Beautiful post. I totally agree! Beautiful picture too.

Freckles Chick said...

Those people are crazy! It always amazes me when people judge, especially strangers.

If anything I envy the beautiful family you have. Your blog always helps me regain a more important perspective outside of the material things in life. =)

Better full than empty is right.

-Julie said...

I get comments like that as well, and I only have 2 kids. I DO wish my purse was free of cracker crumbs though....and the car. Sheesh!

Erin said...

Cute picture! I have to agree with you, although sometimes I have to remind myself. ha ha Have a great weekend!

Kasey said...

what a wonderful picture Laurel!!
my kids run me ragged all the time....
xoxo

Amanda@Imperfectly Beautiful said...

This will be my response from now on to all of those "people" who say that to me on a daily basis. I. Love. It. I would rather have my hands full with my 4 blessings any day, as opposed to empty. How sad for those people. They are missing out on soooo much! Thanks for a wonderful post!

Happy Friday ~ Amanda

Lindsay Adams said...

Thanks your advice helped changed my attitude Monday. True, would not have if any other way. Being a Mom is the best! I love reading your blogs you have an eloquent way of writing.

knittingknirvana said...

Well said! I may be borrowing that wonderful response. :)

Buzzings of a Queen Bee! said...

Amen girl! I only have two kids and someone said that to me the other day, "Oh, you have your hands full!" And it wasn't even that bad. Just the carseat in one hand and my daughter holding the other hand. These comments come from people who don't have any kids and can't imagine. At least that's what I think!
Carrie

Holly said...

I also have three children, and I used to get those comments a lot, too, when they were younger. I didn't have any pithy comebacks, but it always made me wonder...is three considered a large family these days?

One Woman's Cottage Life said...

Hi Laurel...I completely understand and agree with your post! When my 3 were little, I got that a lot. Back then, hehe, I had a really young face, too, and so I got extra not so nice comments like "you don't look old enough to have all those kids". Ugh. People will say anything.

I really like your friends response - perfect!

DJCK incorporated said...

Here's the way I see it. Many people cannot show appreciation for something good that they don't happen to possess. Hence the animosity I have felt at three levels:
1. Being an American (those guys out there really hate us)
2. Being LDS (yeah, I'd hate to have my children grow up in religion that discourages smoking and premarital sex)
3. Working in the nuclear field (yuck--clean energy, okay, but how about all those deaths? Huh? Check out the coal industry, baby)

Amber M. said...

Well spoken. We went many years wanting a baby and not being able to have one. So MUCH better full than empty. Bring it on.

jenjen said...

What a great post. People used to say that to me all the time too.

Your family picture is beautiful!

XOXOXO
Jen

ArizonaLewis said...

next time anyone says something to you, gently place your hand upon their face and push it.
that's what i do.
i love your babies. especially when they "go crazy in old lady".

shalay said...

What a beautiful family you have! And a very well written post. I have much more respect for any mother (especially one who homeschools!) than those immaculate, single business women.

Emily K said...

I love this post! If you can imagine, I get this A LOT. Once when I was shopping at a CHILDREN'S store, the clerk asked me how many I had (they were all with me, by the way). When I told her 5 (it was a while ago), her jaw dropped and she told me, and I quote, "That's two too many, if you ask me." I was not very charitalbe in my head, but all I said to her was,"Which two would you have me give up?" She felt really stupid, as she should, and apologized profusely. I will never forget that. I have always wanted a big family, I have always known that each and every one of my 6 children belong here with me and I wouldn't trade any of them, or the experience I have gained being their mother for the world. I am happy to have my hands full!

Rue said...

Good morning Laurel :)

I love that response! Perfect thing to say :)

Your mudroom is fantastic! I need to get to work on mine.

rue

Reese & Marie said...

Amen. I don't think people know what they're missing. And it's definitely tough at times {a lot of times} but so worth it. I love your family photo - so pretty!!!

Cherry Tree Lane said...

Brilliant!

HMichaelsen said...

Amen to that!

Heather said...

I am single over 30 and w/ out child and live in Utah!! I get asked rude questions all the time!! My friend suggest I reply w/ "Why do you ask?" It turns the tables mighty fast!!!
I suggest it! Maybe you should say "Yes I am very blessed!"

Jamie said...

Love this post!

Jamie said...

Love this post!

Nicole said...

I LOVED your post below! I guess living in Utah it's viewed as a little more normal. I sure remember the weird looks I got at disneyland a few years ago when I had two kids and was very pregnant!
Those women with the perfect nails and expensive handbags are missing out!

Ashley @ Domestic Fashionista said...

What an adorable picture! And I am loving that you are creating a mud room! How fun is that! Cannot wait to see how it all turns out :)
Ashley

Related Posts Widget for Blogs by LinkWithin